tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10566741.post117022630623579540..comments2024-01-05T20:18:45.991-08:00Comments on Et al.: The Ways of GriefAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07829089563990675253noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10566741.post-19386038089635353072012-04-24T16:06:26.935-07:002012-04-24T16:06:26.935-07:00Thanks for posting this review! I love this websit...Thanks for posting this review! I love this website and I’ve subscribed to it.pay per headhttp://www.priceperheadcostarica.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10566741.post-50225669667379660242011-02-23T12:40:41.061-08:002011-02-23T12:40:41.061-08:00I began the second year of grieving in September 2...I began the second year of grieving in September 2010. The Holidays were more difficult. My anniversary was a painful reminder of the joy at our wedding. People want you to be "better". Few people want you to feel worse. They cannot comprehend the difficulty in feeling "better". I am lonely, empty and searching for a future that will have meaning. <br />LostAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10566741.post-68663023734784203882007-08-28T22:10:00.000-07:002007-08-28T22:10:00.000-07:00I have a friend I am going to give your quote. Sh...I have a friend I am going to give your quote. She lost her husband in an accident and they have an almost 3 year old. The 1st "anniversary" of his death is tomorrow. She has told me it is like moving from disbelief to forcing yourself into the reality of the loss - and it is so very hard. One person who responded to you said that their ultimate comfort comes from God. I think she is a little ticked with him - it is all so unfair! And explaining it to a two year old that he can't visit daddy, and daddy loves him but can't come back from heaven because his body stopped working ...heaven doesn't make a whole lot of sense to him. He just wants daddy. I am so sorry for you - you sound like my friend in your quote post - I haven't read any others. I was just searching - for some possible way to help her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10566741.post-48618742201332207382007-03-07T16:06:00.000-08:002007-03-07T16:06:00.000-08:00Yukon parson saysYou never "get over it" but you m...Yukon parson says<BR/>You never "get over it" but you must adjust to the new difficult reality. Ultimate comfort comes from a relationship to God thru Jesus Christ.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10566741.post-1170487321314630432007-02-02T23:22:00.000-08:002007-02-02T23:22:00.000-08:00It takes a few years to grow new bones around the ...It takes a few years to grow new bones around the aching hole. (Did you ever read <A HREF="http://www.amazon.com/Lovely-Bones-Novel-Alice-Sebold/dp/0316666343" REL="nofollow">The Lovely Bones</A>? The main concept I took from that book, was that it took 7 years for the family to grow a new skeleton around the narrator's absence. The narrator being a murdered girl watching her family survive after her death..."These were the lovely bones that had grown around my absence: the connections — sometimes tenuous, sometimes made at great cost, but often magnificent — that happened after I was gone.")<BR/><BR/>But, yeah, once all the activity of survival has resumed a 'normal' pace, the hole just gapes wider in that second year. It takes a long time to grow a new structure around it.<BR/><BR/>Much sympathy.OTRgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12433339525588500502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10566741.post-1170437324110813562007-02-02T09:28:00.000-08:002007-02-02T09:28:00.000-08:00I love the sound of "virtual soup", I'm sending yo...I love the sound of "virtual soup", I'm sending you some as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10566741.post-1170345407401357142007-02-01T07:56:00.000-08:002007-02-01T07:56:00.000-08:00I read this yesterday and I've been avoiding comme...I read this yesterday and I've been avoiding commenting because I don't know what to say.<BR/><BR/>The best I can do is send more virtual soup. Wish I could do/say more.Snickollethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14123630374052898460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10566741.post-1170270827024805312007-01-31T11:13:00.000-08:002007-01-31T11:13:00.000-08:00Dorcasina,I have been reading your blog for about ...Dorcasina,<BR/><BR/>I have been reading your blog for about a year but this is my first time commenting.<BR/><BR/>This tends to be a common experience with grief. I think our bodies use defense mechanisms to prevent us from feeling the full impact of a loss immediately. If we did it would be impossible to bear. As it is, what we do feel is unbearable enough. <BR/><BR/>I am a grief counselor and I have heard many times that the second year is harder than the first. And what yankee, transferred said is true, people expect grief to have a timeline and expect you to "get over it" within that timeframe. (As if getting over it were possible.) <BR/><BR/>Peace to you and your daugther, Dorcasina. Grief is a journey and you will heal.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10566741.post-1170266430154501712007-01-31T10:00:00.000-08:002007-01-31T10:00:00.000-08:00Virtual soup is the next best thing. Thanks, YT.Virtual soup is the next best thing. Thanks, YT.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07829089563990675253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10566741.post-1170265086360805002007-01-31T09:38:00.000-08:002007-01-31T09:38:00.000-08:00Oh. So sorry. Plus after a while, people out the...Oh. So sorry. Plus after a while, people out there in the world expect you to have "gotten used to it" or whatever. I'm sure you want to scream at the world, "IT STILL HURTS!!!" <BR/>I wish I could help. If you lived down the street, I'd bring you soup.Yankee, Transferredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06627693160131161133noreply@blogger.com