Saturday, April 29, 2006

Answer* Prayers (but not the answer I wanted)

It turns out that I can set the passenger side mirror from the driver's seat. Another triumph--however hollow--for widows everywhere.

Now if I could only remember how to set the pre-set stations on the radio...and find some magic setting that would allow me to fill this unbelievable loneliness...

*[sic]. Edited to add: Evidently one's mastery of verb tenses is particularly vulnerable to the 3:30 a.m. posting fatigue...I preserve the error in honor of my imperfections and insomnia.

12 Comments:

At 6:03 AM , Anonymous kabbage said...

If it's a factory-installed radio, it's usually just holding the desired button down until you hear a beep, after you have the desired station playing.

The thing that gets me is the car's clock at time change time.

I hope you find your magic radio setting, or at least a semblance of a facsimile. So sorry you are hurting.

 
At 10:01 AM , Blogger Visiting Prof said...

If your husband was able to program the radio presets and clock, then he was truly a genius. I consider myself a somewhat capable electronic operator (I can Tivo with the best of them), but the radio presets have always stumped me. Moreover, I spend at least 30 minutes looking up how to do it in the owner's manual, spend another 30 minutes programming, and then promptly forget it the next day. Which means at least once a year I repeat the same damn process.

More significantly, it's stunning the ways in which the absence of your sig. other consistently rears its ugly head. These daily reminders of loss must be particularly painful, and I'm sorry that you have to experience them.

As a side note, be sure to avoid programming ANY of your radio presets to that AM station with the late night talk show host who discusses UFO sightings with his callers. It's disorenting and terrifying, particularly at 3:00 in the morning (a time when it's very likely, from the sounds of it, that you're awake).

 
At 12:53 PM , Blogger Dorcasina said...

vis. prof., he was, in fact, incredibly adept with machines--except for the VCR that I brought to the relationship, which has the noteworthy distinction of being the only appliance I have every, truly, mastered.

and kabbage, wouldn't ya think? For some reason, this radio responds as though I am doing the right thing, and then goes back to what I presume are factory presets (it's an after market unit) that have no bearing on local stations.

 
At 2:13 AM , Blogger Terminaldegree said...

I think you have to hold down the desired button a little longer.

(But I've only owned two cars in my whole life, so I'm no expert.)

[[[hugs]]]

 
At 2:27 PM , Blogger Yankee T said...

Sorry about the mirrors and the buttons and all the other indignities. The whole thing just sucks and I think you're bearing up quite well, under the circumstances. Sorry, Dorcasina, wish I could help.

 
At 6:17 PM , Blogger Inside the Philosophy Factory said...

As many have said, it is the little stuff that hurts -- especially in the first few years. Sooner or later you'll work it all out -- but, for now you might want to do a google search on your radio make and model -- maybe there will be a simple formula for setting the buttons.

 
At 8:55 AM , Blogger OTRgirl said...

I have no helpful advice since this is one of the indignities I will suffer if I'm around longer than Jrex.

I'm sorry for this, and all the other large and small frustrations you're surviving.

 
At 6:59 AM , Blogger snickollet said...

Just today I was wishing that I knew how to adjust the presets on my radio. Do you happen to have a Subaru? If so, I'll let you know how to do it when/if I figure it out.

For the record, I'm sick of not getting the answers I want to my prayers. Adjusting my expectation is something that I'm not very good at.

 
At 8:13 AM , Blogger Bob said...

thanks for writing.

 
At 4:03 PM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sorry this isn't appropos of today's post -- just want to hip everyone (you all probably know this already) to a great novel on bereavement, Good Grief by Lolly Winston. Funny and marvelous. Enjoy.

 
At 6:46 PM , Anonymous MindSpin said...

I know you're taking a break from this blog right now, but I want you to know that I'm still thinking of you.

 
At 6:11 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm thinking of you too. I glance every day to see if you've updated. How are you doing? Love from an anonymous person somewhere in the blogosphere...

 

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